Female Vs Girl friends, and Male Vs Boy friends, an interesting, and a very sensitive topic. I had this post drafted for a while, and just thought of letting the cat out. This blog is gyan, purely perspectives and bears no semblances to incidents or characters. I have many more drafts like this, pending attention, to be edited for language and style.
Looking at the diversity of friends around me, most of them, being men, I am sure, I am eligible to bet my words on this topic.
Looking at the diversity of friends around me, most of them, being men, I am sure, I am eligible to bet my words on this topic.
With the trust I have, will always, and with all due respect to my male friends, I begin to write to men who want to understand their world and be better.
What women look for, in this world, is a space to grow, an opportunity to exhibit their talents, acknowledgment and encouragement for it from their peers, who have been doing it for years. An environment, which does not make them feel weak or exposed. A place where, men don't treat her as an object. A place where she is not forced to allow rubbings on their skin, as a price to be accepted as an equal. I heard, men of quality, never fear women seeking equality. Now quality is a very very large commitment to life. But not very difficult to manage. It simply is a foot away, when needed !
Every relationship grows and matures, reaches stages where friends of opposite sex begin to feel indispensable about each other just as friends of the same sex do. Some choose to make this relationship work in a marriage, while others remain as they are. Some choose to flirt safely with friends, for they are confident of bearing limits. The relationship still claims respect, for the level of trust they bear. The latter requires, maturity, bold and frank discussions about how you feel about someone, even at weak moments. It is biological, and there is nothing to feel shy about it. Both men and women must be able to accept these gracefully as compliments and should be strong enough to let go of these, laugh over these as a simple joke. This increases respect for each other. It takes trust to discuss this, a bit of courage, and definitely, values.
Every relationship grows and matures, reaches stages where friends of opposite sex begin to feel indispensable about each other just as friends of the same sex do. Some choose to make this relationship work in a marriage, while others remain as they are. Some choose to flirt safely with friends, for they are confident of bearing limits. The relationship still claims respect, for the level of trust they bear. The latter requires, maturity, bold and frank discussions about how you feel about someone, even at weak moments. It is biological, and there is nothing to feel shy about it. Both men and women must be able to accept these gracefully as compliments and should be strong enough to let go of these, laugh over these as a simple joke. This increases respect for each other. It takes trust to discuss this, a bit of courage, and definitely, values.
Some, express these subtly, and want to acknowledge, give due respects, and move towards the next level of relationship, where, love as in affection, becomes, love as in love. Beauty !! Some stand apart, turning these into admiration for the other. They never lead the other into a spree of discomfort by their bold act of friendship.
Now to the sad part, some hide this, from their friends, thinking that the other doesn't know (or) feel the vibes. So foolish, of assuming you aren't watched by your friend, who probably knows you more than you think.
Lets grow up, be open and frank, create a happier communicated and connected world :) !!
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